The concept of unforgiveness is so far outside of God’s principles that you cannot even find the word unforgiveness in the Bible. This is because God teaches us to forgive so that we can be forgiven. The cost of unforgiveness is so devastating that God teaches us forgiveness throughout the entire Bible.
Damaging Effects of Unforgiveness:
1. We will be forgiven to the same extent that we forgive.
Matthew 6 tells us in the prayer that Jesus taught, “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” We will be forgiven in the same measure that we forgive others. We have all made far too many mistakes ourselves not to forgive others for any mistakes they have made, large or small.
2. We will be cast into prison until we pay back the debt of unforgiveness. Matthew 18 tells us that we should have mercy on our fellow man, just as we have been shown mercy. It goes on to say that we will be turned over to the jailer and tortured until our account of unforgiveness is settled.
Matthew 18:35 says,
“This is how My Heavenly Father will treat each of you, unless you forgive your brother from your heart.
3. As a result of our unforgiveness we set our own punishment. For example, when King David took another man’s wife, he was confronted by the prophet with a story of a rich man who took a lamb from a man who had only one lamb. When David condemned the thief from the story he set his own punishment. It was only the grace of God that brought David to the freedom of forgiveness. Walk in forgiveness and set yourself up for mercy, not the judgment you deserve.
4. The effects of unforgiveness can cause you great harm and loss. Here are two biblical examples of how devastating unforgiveness can be. Judas condemned himself for his betrayal of Jesus and went out and hung himself. Peter felt so bad after betraying Christ that he left weeping and missed being at the crucifixion.
There is no good that can come out of unforgiveness. It is a destructive force that is brought into your life by the devil to keep you from coming to your fullness. Stay away – far, far away – from any form of unforgiveness. It is a wicked and vile practice that can only lead you astray and cost you much more than you want to pay.